If you want to live your life quietly and privately then that’s great and noble, but I would like to live mine with my shadow in front of me. I want to rebel and push boundaries. I want to rise and fall and be able to appreciate both, the rise and the fall. I want to shout and make my voice heard. I want to fly and reinvent myself each and every day. I want to make my own choices and be responsible for the consequences. I want to be fearless yet allow fear to be my best friend. How about you? Do you want to lead a noble life or do you belong to the world of thunderstorms too?
Who defines whether you are successful or not? If your answer is anything but: “myself”, then you might want to take a step back and rethink your answer. If the answer is so or so, then you are making a choice to fall, because no one can know you better than you do! Thousands and thousands of people would gladly scrutinize and criticize every single step you take and mark it as a failure, or as a “not good enough”, but does it matter? If you know that even when you fail you are adding value to your life, you are enriching it and making it worth living, then you are a winner no matter what!
When you look down at yourself or your skills, you are then giving a free pass to everyone on this planet to do the same exact thing. When you think that you aren’t good enough, pretty enough, strong enough, smart enough…etc., you are welcoming disappointments and heartaches, with open arms. You are making a pact with the devil to take away the joy and sparks from your life. What you will be overlooking is the fact that you never promised anyone that you’ll be perfect. You never told the universe that you’ll be a great mother, wife, sister, daughter, employee, …etc. We put so much pressure on ourselves that we get lost in the middle of the game, we become our worst enemies. We forget that the most important virtue of all is self-forgiveness. Instead of constantly reminding ourselves of how we suck, maybe we can spread positive vibes coming from a place of kind, encouraging and motherly love. Every time we open our mouths to say something negative, maybe we can say a prayer of love instead.
I heard somewhere someone saying: “Take 10 seconds a day to think of someone you know, or even someone you don’t know -it could be anyone, the cashier at the supermarket, the old woman crossing the road next to you, the young man sitting next to you at the café…etc. Think of them and wish them happiness, truly and genuinely wish them to be happy” Try it … Now! Close your eyes, think of someone, ANYONE, and wish them all the happiness in the world…. Yes, that’s what I am talking about… You are smiling already! Can you do it twice, three, four times a day? I tried it and it transformed my days! How about if you wish YOURSELF happiness? Do it few times a day and see the outcome, you might be surprised.
The world is a scary place, and it might seem almost impossible to uncover the strange jewels that are hidden within each one of us, yet it is our duty to do so! Whether we want to live quietly and privately or we want to take the biggest bite we could of this delicious life, loudly and cheerfully, we still need to be our own BBFs, we need to learn how to love ourselves no matter how bad we think we are. Hard to transfer this from a blog post to reality, yes I know, but every day is a chance to work on it, to try, to do the best we can, and that’s all that matters.