Online or on-campus?
Which team have you been so far? Team Online, or Team on-campus?
This is a question that mothers all over Bahrain have been dwelling upon. I know friends who have been losing sleep over this matter, and some that are torn between the excruciating guilt of sending their child to school, and the agonizing guilt of keeping them at home and the fear of missing out! Guilt, guilt, guilt!
There is no right answer to this question. In the midst of the total uncertainty and the immense confusion everybody is facing right now, this question only adds insult to injury. I have been avoiding asking anyone this question because I know no matter what their answer is, it will still make them feel awkward.
There has also been lots of finger-pointing and lots of judging going on, in both camps. “How could you send them when the virus is everywhere?” or “ You have been keeping them home for the last 9 months? They must be so bored… and their social skills must be diminishing!!”
If you are being tormented right now by this question, I would totally encourage you to forget about what other people are doing, or saying, and focus on what works best for YOU and YOUR CHILD. Each one is different, each one’s convictions are different, each one’s reasons are different, therefore it is foolish to compare your decision with someone else’s. Even though we all face the same beast: Covid 19, yet we all are reacting to it differently, with lots of caution yes, but differently nonetheless!
Ask yourself what will each choice bring you and your family? And never forget that whatever you choose, you do not have to justify it to anyone! Ultimately everyone will have a different opinion from yours, so never think too much of others and their opinions.
Make a list of pros and cons, and write down your reasons for each one.
Include your child in the decision-making, ask them whether they would prefer to go back to school, or continue at home? Because at the end of the day, this mainly has to do with their life. They might feel anxious and prefer staying at home, or they might be feeling anguished from being at home, isolated from friends and classmates, and obviously their opinion count the most.
For a second (and only a second) switch off your heart and use your brain, use your logic, bring fresh eyes to the situation, and see what you might have been missing? Or what things you might have been looking at from a different angle.
Whatever you choose, do it with love, and don’t worry about what other mothers might think of you or of your mothering style! The judging game have just reached another level with Covid, among moms, so don’t worry, whatever you do , you will be wrong ;), and if you see a mom struggling with this choice.. remember: Be Kind!