“Hello! Come in!”

 

 

Last week, I ordered something from a home owned business. Few days later it was ready and my son and I passed by to collect it. We rang the bell and the person whom we ordered the piece from opened the door, and we were told to wait at the door step, to collect our order. To me there was nothing alarming about this, nor did I even think twice about the whole “waiting at the doorstep thing”, but my 3 years old little boy did. He immediately asked me: “Mama, why we weren’t invited to go inside”. I must admit that I had no answer to that, I mean people are free to invite whoever they like and this isn’t even someone we know, but nothing came out of my mouth, all I could think of is how my 3 years old little angel knows that doors should always be opened for guests, and guests should always come in. This must have been something he has learned in our home. He must have seen that we always invite anyone and everyone to our home!! Wooooha! My husband and I must have been doing it RIGHT! At that moment I couldn’t be happier or prouder of my son and myself too!

 

Being kind is something I always focus on, in our day to day life, with my son. Because to me, being kind is more important than how you look, how much money you make, what’s your race, religion or color! Being kind is what I pray my son will be known for. So I work hard on that, each and every day to instill this incredible quality in his soul.

When he asked me why we were not invited to come in, he was seriously confused, as if it was the most natural and common thing to do, whenever you open your door, and that’s what melted my heart then and every single minute after! The innocence with which he asked was absolutely precious, something that I sure miss in our world nowadays. We were all born innocent as my little man is now, yet somehow along the years, the experiences that shaped who we have become, the people with whom we crossed paths, the scars that our destiny made us carry, and the voice inside of us that fades with every passing day, all this and more made us become the people who can’t trust and who are sometimes unkind today.

I still have no answer for my little one, but I have loved his question more than I have cared to find the answer, his question made me realize that some things as simple as saying “Come in please” meant so much more that what they really are, it made me realize that I want to see the world through the eyes of a child, always and forever.

 

May he always open his door to everyone and anyone, may he keep trusting people even if they are unkind to him, may his eyes, soul, and heart stay forever young.

 

 

Ouiam

A Ray of Sunshine!

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After posting about Adam’s birth story (to view post click here ), I was showered with text messages, phone calls, messages on my Instagram and Facebook account, so much love, kind words and lots of sweet comments, that went straight to my heart and made it shine with happiness. It felt phenomenal to be supported by close friends and not so close ones, by family members and friends of friends, people I admire and people who had a great impact in my life. All this positivity and good vibes made me think: what if that’s how we treated each other, each and every single day? What if we were always kind and sweet to each other? Showering each other with compliments and positive thoughts only? What if we told a friend how beautiful she looked that day (everyday)? What if we smiled at strangers in the streets? What if we only posted positive comments online? What if we said more of “Thank you” and less of “Now” or “I want”? What if we looked at the mirror and told ourselves that we are beautiful/smart/ kind/ funny/ sincere/ honest/ understanding/ caring/ wise ….. etc. What if??? What if these things are no longer a “what if” and they become part of our daily routine?

Why is it 10 times harder to give a compliment than to criticize someone? Why is it so hard to be kind all the way even to ourselves, mostly to ourselves? It seems almost impossible to acknowledge all the qualities we have, we focus so much on the negative part that we can barely see any positive left in us. I am not talking about people with high ego; this is about people like you and me, simple people who are seeking to find themselves and experience an existence of peace and love.

I once heard this: “We have the tendency to want the other person to be a finished product while we give ourselves the grace to evolve” and it just hit me so hard, we always question ourselves: “Why did he say that” or “Why did she do that”.  We get so frustrated with other people’s behaviors as if we all HAVE TO react in the same way, as if we all analyze things the same way. Not only we cannot change other people‘s behaviors but we shouldn’t even try to! Each one of us is responsible for their actions. While something might seem terribly wrong to us, it will make perfect sense to someone else and that is how life goes on.

Today and after I saw how wonderful I felt with nothing but few kind words from some very kind people; I make it my mission to be more tolerant of other people’s actions and behaviors. I will create a mantra that I will recite daily to remind myself of how only kindness should take over my judgment, a mantra that should say “Only positive vibes today”. I vow that I will smile to strangers, nod to moms like me in the streets, let someone go before me while queuing at the cashier, I will only write positive comments online, I will support and encourage not only people I know but anyone who deserves to be appreciated. Who is with me in this? Who wants to use my mantra? Let us do this today, because we all can!!

Ouiam