There are things you learn only when you are thirty. Because thirty is the bridge between both worlds: The naivety of the twenties, and how we think we know it all, and the wisdom of the thirties and how each day is a learning experience. Because you are mature enough, wise enough, and most importantly OLD enough to be trusted with some of life’s major secretes.
In few more days, I will be celebrating my 31st birthday and Gosh how I love birthdays! I just love growing and figuring out what life has in store for me. Being thirty was incredibly amazing. It has been filled with so much personal growth, and even though life has gifted me with some hardships, I am still very proud of myself and of how amazing being thirty was.
Being thirty taught me so many new and amazing things. The most important of all is not to be afraid of rejection. I learnt that if someone said “NO” to me, I shouldn’t take it as a setback or a failure, instead, I should look at it as a new source of motivation. Hearing “NO” now is like music to my ears, it makes me step out of my comfort zone, and feel the rush of adrenaline through every inch of my body. The word “NO” now is more of an invitation than it is a rejection. Learning how to accept “NO” and move on was just the beginning of a long delightful story of me getting out of my comfort zone at every step of the way. Being thirty freed me, it liberated me from so many invisible ropes that were tying me down. Now every single day, I look for new challenges. Challenges that will keep me on my toes, that will make my body and mind work hard. In a way it also prepares me for when life strikes, and shows me its other face, the ugly one. It made me a warrior, who wouldn’t fear walking through her path with open arms. Being thirty wasn’t all roses and rainbows. It was full of surprises, good ones, and not so good ones, but still, I have to say, it was my very favorite year ever!
It also taught me how to SAY No! how many times have I found myself cornered in a situation that I hated to be in, but I said YES anyways because I felt forced to, because it wasn’t nice to say NO, because I wanted to please everyone around me. So being thirty taught me that that was plain craziness! The only people I should be struggling to please are: Myself and my family. “No” has become such a joyful word, instead of it being a source of shame and embarrassment. I say No to things that won’t work for me, I no longer do things that I don’t want to do…. And I am loving it!
Being thirty also taught me a lot about being vulnerable, and how asking for help is our fundamental right and not some kind of cliché that wasn’t for me. I learned that some things in life are only done by asking for help. I learnt that sometimes by asking for help you might also be helping others, and by opening the door you are not only setting yourself free, but freeing other people too.
I learnt this past year the true meaning of friendship. Yes, it took me thirty whole years to figure that out. I have said goodbye to some of my very dear friends, yet we promised each other that we wouldn’t comply with the rule:” Out of of sight, out of mind”. We promised each other that friendship is for life and we kept our words. I feel so thankful and grateful that God made some incredible people cross my path, and linked us forever.
I also finally learnt how to use the GPS!!!!! YES< I DID IT! I never ever thought I am capable of following those very unclear instructions, yet being thirty taught me that I am very much capable of just that! In the last year I have been to places I have never ever been to, in the last 11 years I have been living in Bahrain. I really see this as an “out of this world” accomplishment and I am so very proud of myself!
Being thirty, taught me to only surround myself with people who are going to add value to my life. Whom their presence is going to enlighten me and enrich my life in every aspect, and stay away from negative people, no matter how hard that can be, I just learnt to set rules and boundaries and it worked like a charm!
I learnt to appreciate humor and not to take life too seriously! Face a hardship with a chuckle because you might as well make fun of your miseries, instead of drowning yourself in sorrow.
I also learnt that no matter how painful life can be, no matter how much your heart aches, and your eyes tear, you will eventually smile, because God has gifted us with the epitome of mercy and blessings: The act of forgetting! We forget everything with time and we smile again with a happy heart.
Being thirty was beyond amazing, and I am beyond excited to see what’s in for me next year. What will being 31 teach me, what will life gift me with next year?
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sticking around throughout me being thirty, and for being the best companions in my journey. So much love, positive energy and birthday horns, hats and cheers your way!!