Are you laughing at my question? Does it seem silly to you? Well… I promise you, at least in my case, it isn’t silly at all! And I am pretty sure I am not the only one!
I have at least 5 or 6 selves that I have to live with, take care of, and tend to their needs everyday. Sometimes it becomes so confusing and complicated because things just don’t seem to make sense anymore. It seems so weird and random most of the time. Sometimes it is seasonal, sometimes it changes when I change the language I use (Arabic, English or French), and some other times depending on the people I surround myself with.
Now please don’t get me wrong, I am not schizophrenic or anything like that lol, I am just aware of the many states of mind I can get myself into. Because you see, I am a mother, a daughter, a wife, a sister, a friend, and I am also a woman! the day is only 24 hours and I can’t possibly care for all these selves equally; so some days we focus on being a mom some others on being a wife, or a woman or a daughter…etc. Do I feel guilty for doing that, you ask? NO absolutely not! As long as in a week every one of my selves is happy and content!
To be able to integrate the diverse experiences, emotions, hopes, fears, and many many other things in one self is absurd. Especially that we are always a work in progress. We are never a finished product, we change and evolve daily, and being able to recognize and understand at least some of the selves that compose your persona is the ultimate dream. Being able to cope with them all, to tend to their need, to always guide them and make it a teamwork affair, takes a lot of dedication and efforts. To fullfil and satisfy every one of these many selves is not easy, yet it is somehow crucial and not negotiable!
I have so many selves swirling around within me, YES, but I don’t try to exile some of them or deny them the right to live… NO… I can’t do that now, can I? Instead, I bring them to the light, and try to give them a form and a shape. I try to communicate with them gently and lovingly because they are the key to fully understand myself; which is not going to happen in a day or a month or a year. No! It takes a lifetime to only begin to do that, and who knows if you’ll ever succeed! I try to show them that I care and that I am willing to bring each one of them the satisfaction and fulfilment they need to thrive and make me a better person.
May be this may sound foolish and might not make any sense to you at all, but my hope here is to encourage and empower you to do the same. To discover the different parts that make you who you are, and may be share them too!