Today Is Not The Day…

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Today is not the day! I pick up my laptop, stare at the blank page in front of me, and I see words jumping.. so many of them, I can’t really keep track! I think of the priest who was killed today by the 19 years old boy, and I don’t know whom should I feel bad for? The man who went to heaven, (regardless of who he was, he still was killed today), or the little boy who lived in hell and will remain in there for a while.

I think of change and how it is always good for you. Sometime it scares you, so you try to stay away, you push, you resist, because you don’t want to try new things, you don’t want to get out of your comfort zone, and most importantly you are scared to be rejected. A friend once told me that in life you will be rejected many many times, so make them count! But being rejected is not something you want to accept easily. It is not something we want at all! Rejection and the shame and guilt that follow are unwanted friends, who when they knock on your door, you switch off the lights, and you silence your phone, and you sit in the dark waiting for them to leave, thinking that you’re not home. How do you ever make peace with this awful friendship? That painful feeling of humiliation and distress? I say get a vaccine! Yes ! you know how they do it right, they inject you with a small dose of the same pathogen you are trying to protect yourself from, they might even do it multiple times to get it right. Well I say do the same thing with your fear of rejection! Put yourself in situations where you will get rejected (gently and smoothly), few times and Voila! Will it work? did I try it before? I don’t know, I haven’t and I am just sharing few thoughts in here!

 

I am also thinking of how the year has past and I have really managed not to buy anything I didn’t really need. OK let me explain to you; Last year I made a decision not to buy anything at all (unless I really really needed it), and this comes from an ex-shopaholic, who used to spend most – if not all- of her time checking out shops, malls, outlets, etc. So yes I did it! It has been more than a year and guess what? I feel great! I have never felt so light and so right at the same time.So while staring at the blank page in front of me, I smile, I give myself a high-five, and I promise myself to write a post about just this!

 

I think of the little things that go by unnoticed, yet tracked down by a child, who takes time to see the unseen and read between the lines, and when I say a child, I don’t only mean kids, I also mean those very few people who kept the child within and never grew old! The shadows and how fun they really are, the bread that looks like a pillow, the bird who is king somewhere, the stones that melted and told stories! You see I live with a child, or two, if you count the one I never let go of, even though I am thirty.

 

I think of how good change is for you… Oh wait I did think of that 2 minutes ago, so I go back to staring at the white page and I wait!

 

I think of the mother who carried her two dead children yesterday after a car crash, and my heart sinks! I think of the morons who drive like maniacs and I get upset! I think of the souls who said goodbye to loved ones because someone was having too much fun trying to shift gears and see how far they can go! I think of this sad world and where is it taking us, but I also think of the sun and the bright moon tonight! I think of the stars and the smiles and the laughters. I think of babies cooing somewhere, and women shedding tears of joy meeting their little angel for the first time. I think of  teenagers who passed their final exams and how bright their future seems to be. I think of God and how merciful he is!

 

But mostly…I think today is not the day to blog….. Or maybe it is…What do you think?

 

Ouiam

A Parent’s Guid To Road Tripping And More!

 

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If you missed part one and two see it here and here! It’s crazy how far away this vacation seems to be now yet at the same time it feels like we just got back yesterday!

So after visiting Amsterdam and falling in love with this exciting and very charming place, we packed our bags and left the hotel, in our wonderfully practical and fully loaded minivan. My key secret to having a peaceful road trip with a toddler, is load that car with anything and everything I could lay hands on, meaning: Before we go anywhere, we pass by the supermarket and we stock up on water, fruits, vegetables, yogurt, cheese, crackers …etc. I also make sure I include plenty of my “busy boxes”, which are shoeboxes filled with different things. Each box has a theme, one can be filled with crayons, paper, pencils, glitters, and other art supplies. Another one can have some glue, some cardboard, and some pre-cut pieces of paper. Sometimes when I feel very crafty I would make them into different shapes. A shoebox can also contain a book and things related to that book, for example we had “The Very Hungry Caterpillar”, so back home, before we traveled, I made a caterpillar and some oranges, some strawberries, some plums, a moon, an egg… etc. Adam loves telling us the story using these little things! You can fill these boxes (or bags if you prefer) with anything you like and they are a great way to keep a toddler busy!

 

Stopping the car from time to time and stepping out to get some fresh air is also a great way to enjoy the trip. Adam loved the greenery that was abundant and surrounding us from every angle! We got to run a bit, roll on the grass and meet new friends which is always a blessing!

 

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Adam discovered Pizza in this trip! He had it for the first time in his life, and he loved it! So it made it very easy to have dinner in the car while baba is driving. This way we didn’t have to worry much about wasting time or missing dinner, because Adam is always so tired by the time we reach the hotel.

We all love music, so we always carry some CDs with us when we travel, and we listen to them during our trip. One of them works like magic in putting Adam to sleep, and this way we never missed any of his naps (It was a gift for his first birthday, and that’s exactly why we love the friends who got it for him- or should I say for us- Thank you Mirna & Sergio lol).

 

Road trips are one of the very awesome things we do. I love them insanely because growing up I used to go in so many of them with my family and I have such great great memories from that sweet time! So I am so glad that I get to do the same thing with my small family!

 

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I must say this time I was a little more worried about how will Adam be in this road trip, because he wasn’t feeling so well. The last week of our 3 weeks stay in Morocco, Adam seemed like he had a tummy bug, and for three days he had a fever that reached 40 degrees one night. It was the first time Adam gets sick this bad and of course I was panicking. Luckily I always trust my instinct, it never fails me. Although his symptoms looked like a flue, and my whole family agreed on that piece of info, I knew it was something he ate and his tummy now harboured a dam cursed bacteria that was refusing to let go! I am no doctor but this is what worked for me regardless of who said what.

 

1-  First and foremost, NEVER EVER EVER give a child something to stop his diarrhea or vomiting!! This is the body’s natural way of cleansing itself, if you stop it by giving medicine, the bacteria will never leave and you will only suppress the symptoms. Instead make sure you hydrate the body with plenty of water, or water with a teaspoon of sugar (to replenish the minerals), give few sips of green tea, it works like a miracle! Also give plenty of starchy food (when the child is able to eat, because you should never force them to eat), like potatoes, rice, carrots, and even chocolate.

 

2- Use garlic in anyway you can! I used to crash it, leave it to rest for 15 minutes and then  give it to Adam. Garlic contains a compound called Allicin, which has potent medicinal properties. It is a real wealth so use it generously.

 

3- Fenugreek, a miracle when it comes to boosting the immune system! Because the child’s immune system is at its lowest, we need to look into ways to revitalize it. I would soak some fenugreek seeds overnight, and give Adam a teaspoon of that water every morning. It is safer to use small doses and it sure helps like nothing else!

 

4- For the fever, I swear by vinegar!! Soak the child’s socks in vinegar, and put them on for him, repeat this whenever needed. It really does wonders. In 15 minutes you will start noticing the fever going down.

5- Lemon and organic honey!! Amazing for anything and everything! Just squeeze half a lemon, mix it with a teaspoon of honey and give the child to drink.

I also always include lots of ginger (in soups), parsley, blueberries, turmeric, and onions in Adam’s diet whenever he is sick. It is a great way to help the body heal itself naturally.

 

It took Adam one whole week to recover totally, but I haven’t used any medicine at all. No antibiotics no anti-inflammatory, nothing at all! I did take him to see a doctor afterwards though, just to confirm that he is well and nothing is wrong. We then found out that he had salmonella! YES! I have no idea how he got it, but whatever I did was the best way to deal with it! You never want to suppress an infection (in this case Salmonella) by giving antibiotics, this will just make matters worse. You need to give it a chance to leave the body entirely and peacefully!

 

I hope today’s tips help you even a tiny bit and Thank you for reading!!

 

Ouiam

Let’s Talk About Those Stretch Marks…!

 

 

Today I couldn’t help but write! I couldn’t help but let my suffocated thoughts erupt like a volcano! Because I simply feel I should! With every day, week, month, there is a new trend, and this week’s is all about motherhood and being real… Being raw… Being true to yourself by showing your C-section scar, by telling people how many pounds you gained and how you don’t care because motherhood is worth it, how your belly is still hanging and that these are the joys of giving birth, about those stretch marks that are now covering that hanging belly, and about all the other miseries that every mother experiences, or at least she thinks she does.  Women now share them because they  don’t want new mothers to feel alone, to agonise about this alone! Because it’s painful, because It is something we don’t like and most importantly we never like to talk about.

 

Well you see, I am a mother too, I gave birth the 6th of February 2014, to a beautiful baby boy. When I left the hospital instead of complaining about my extra weight, I was actually complaining about how much weight I have lost, I had absolutely no stretch marks, and I couldn’t even think about my tiny almost invisible C-section scar…… You say I am lucky? You say I am far from being modest? Well the truth is, all these stories were the least of my worries, because all I could think of was my little bundle of joy that I wasn’t able to carry for two weeks because I was in ICU and he couldn’t come and visit. I couldn’t feel his soft skin against my chin like I envisaged 9 months ago, I couldn’t smell him and hold him close to my heart like I dreamt of doing! I was busy thinking about whether I was gonna make it or  whether I was leaving a motherless child behind me. I was thinking of my mother who was gonna burry her own child sooner than she thought, I was thinking of my husband who would have to continue life with a child to whom he would be both a father and a mother at the same time. I was thinking of the next surgery I was gonna have – because there was always a next one since nothing seemed to work. I was thinking of how I was never going to see my son getting married. I was thinking of how my body failed me big time. I was thinking of God and praying so hard… the hardest I ever did!

 

You see I didn’t have time to think about how I looked with those life support machines, or with a swollen body or with 5 scars from 5 different surgeries! I didn’t have time to think of the stretch marks I had because I was busy thinking of the internal bleeding going on in my uterus. I didn’t have time to pay attention to my weight, because I was more concerned with whether or not I was gonna wake up alive the next day!

 

I never had a chance to do that skin to skin I dreamt of doing all those 9 months of pregnancy, with my little one because I had a severe postpartum hemorrhage, and stayed on life support machines for 2 weeks. I never had a chance to breastfeed for two whole weeks. I didn’t have the luxury to enjoy the first days of my son’s life, but I am so very thankful that I am ALIVE! My child still has a mother! So yes if you gained weight, have stretch marks,if you are living with a hanging belly, going through what they call: “baby blues”, just be thankful that with all that, you still held your baby so tight and didn’t have to let go, be thankful that you never had to fight for your life, be thankful those stretch marks and that C-section are the only scars you carry, be thankful that being pregnant again doesn’t scare the hell out of you, be thankful that you are ALIVE!

 

Today this is just a memory, but with every passing day, this has become a prayer, a mantra, and a peaceful song! I am thankful for all the miseries or the joys (or whatever you want to call them) of giving birth, because I am still alive to enjoy and cherich motherhood, the real thing, the bond between me and my child, not how I look like, not how my belly looks like, not how my house looks like!  Today I pray for every woman to have a safe delivery anywhere and everywhere in the world, and let those stretch marks be my guest….!

 

Ouiam