So yesterday was Valentines day, and along came a hideous wave of videos, messages, pictures, and comments on the social media in the arab world. It all came as a great warning to all the “brothers and sisters” to not celebrate, to not give your loved ones flowers and tell them that you love them because ,god forbid, what a great sin this will be. To not take your wife (or girlfriend or sister or mother or anyone from the opposite sex for that matter) out for dinner, because then you will lose all your privileges as a good Muslim! Ooh and even wishing a “Happy Valentine’s day” to anyone you know is a an immoral act against divine laws! I would have to pause right here and take three deep breaths before I say what I have to say! And just a friendly warning, some people might not like it or even agree with it, but that’s absolutely fine!
The people who advocate for the “No Valentine’s day” policy, are the same ones who also think it is not allowed to celebrate new year’s eve, birthdays, christmas..etc. I must say that I don’t know where do they stand from mother’s and father’s day though! I will have to check that out! (LoL) But yeah mainly we are not supposed to celebrate ANYTHING! Stay in your house and tune into Aljazeera, or BBC and watch people dying everyday and everywhere! Do you capture how miserable, sad, depressing and very upsetting life will be if we do what we are told to do by these sinister people?
If we are not supposed to celebrate any of these joyful events, what can we celebrate then? How do we enjoy the special days in our life? How do we get to build memories? How do we make ourselves HAPPY! For God’s sake who cares what people meant with this holiday, 14 thousand years ago? I don’t give a sh€$t! When my beloved husband gifts me with absolutely gorgeous flowers, takes me out on a date, and just makes that specific day a very special one, that warms my heart and makes it burst from pure joy, how is that ever gonna be a sin? If it is on the 14th of February or the 58th of June (if there was such date) who cares?! The prophet PBUH clearly said: “رفقا بالقوارير” that would be in english: “Be gentle with the ladies”, the absolute definition of the Valentine’s day! He is telling you to take your wife out on a date, give her flowers and make her heart happy! Be it the 14th, the 15th, or any other freaking day! So why the big fuss?!
Honestly I don’t care what their argument is; I believe we are all adults, all in control of our lives. We all know what is right and what’s wrong. When we sin we pay for our sins, and when we do good deeds we get the credit, we do, not anyone else!!! Yes sure we need guidance and we ask for it. However the guidance is for the complicated matters, the ones that keep us on from sleeping at night, the ones that make our hearts and brains in great conflict, not whether we should celebrate the valentine’s day or not!
I dream of a world of unlimited simplicity. Where people mind their own business and learn how to be kind to one another! Where they will celebrate each and every day, thankful for yet another day in this weirdly delicious life!
May this dream of mine, come true …one day…!
Happy Valentine’s day!!