I don’t believe in making resolutions at the end of every year to welcome the new one, because I think it is just an excuse to be lazy and take one whole year to achieve goals that only take few weeks to be checked ✔️. Also once you know that you have a whole year to reach wherever you want, you lay back and wait until tomorrow, next week or even next month. So instead of making resolutions, I choose a word that should define my coming year. Last year it was “Balance”. It was all about finding balance as a family of three where we grow together yet still have the freedom to thrive individually. And I can say balance has wrapped every moment of my 2015, and was my main aim every single day.
For 2016, I didn’t take long to choose my word, It was somehow waiting for 2015 to come to an end to gracefully make a grand entrance. This year I am focusing on “Love” Loving myself, my beautiful family, my loved ones, my friends, and everyone around me. Even if a situation requires me to be firm or not sweet at all, I will still do it with love. Gently and lovingly setting boundaries and saying No when it is needed. So mainly everything I am going to do this new year will be with love and coming from a place of love!
This year also will mark a huge transition in my life, I am gladly leaving the twenties’ territory, and stepping into the novelty of an exciting decade! I will turn 30 this coming April, and boy am I excited!! My 20s were amazing. Wild, adventurous, beautiful, full of surprises! In my 20s I met my best friend and the love of my life, I got married to him, I gave birth to our son, My heart expended about 100 times loving them both! My 20s were a time of self-discovery, and if that is indeed the case then I hope that my 30s will be a time to enjoy all the “stuff” I figured out. So yes my 20s were outstanding and I have to thank god for that!
I know many people who make a huge deal out of this shift into a new decade. They fear that it might be the end of their youth. You would hear them commiserating over “30” saying it in whispered tones! Sweating at the thought of it, and probably extending their 29th year of life as long as they can (3or 4 more years or as long as they can get away with it lol)
Once a friend asked me what were my goals before I hit the BIG “3 0”, and I have to admit I had NONE! The terrified look in her face made me think of how people expect everyone to do something with their lives before they reach 30. It is seen as a distinct marker between being young and free and learning how to be successful and between getting older, richer, and all what matches the fantasies and dreams you built in your 20s. While I don’t contradict that, I must say that it is hard trying to measure up when you have created an imaginary ruler in your mind. Then it becomes easy to start the whole “dreading birthdays” thing. While if you think about it, is there a more joyous occasion than marking the passing of a year, noting all of its lessons, trials, and triumphs, and gearing up for a new one?!
Turning 30 to me is absolutely exciting! It is starting a new chapter in my life with all the knowledge and wisdom I acquired in the last decade (or at least I hope I did)! It is me knowing exactly who I am, what I want out of life and where I stand in this big wide world.
To me entering this new decade is not even about accomplishments and achievements, it is more about simplifying life. About the ups and downs that it will bring and how I will manage them. How to grow even more as a person as an adult, and accept who I am! About not looking at anyone else when I fail or succeed, about not wasting time trying to please everyone, or figuring out why people act the way they do. This is my only chance of ever being in my thirties, and I am sure as hell I am not going to waste it.
So to wrap it up, I would urge you to bring out the party hats, the noise makers, put up the streamers and blow up balloons!! I am a soon to be 30 years old young woman!